Here is what we will cover this month:
- Hopefully the last essay on the pandemic and actions to take to make life better for you.
- Some quotes, not as many as usual; it has been a slow-quote month.
- An exciting update on my new book and some Chesapeake news and a short commercial.
Solitude is good – Loneliness and Isolation are bad:
“I am lonely, and I am trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my life.” That was the answer I got from my friend when I asked, “How is it going?” A couple of weeks earlier he had lost his wife of 50 years after she suffered several strokes. My friend, who I have known since I was 18, always gives a direct, no nonsense answer – even to incredible stupid questions from a less than sensitive old friend. Harry, (not his real name) is one of those guys that seems to have it all; great looking fellow, very athletic, dated the pretty girl who later became his wife and made the dean’s list all the time in college. My heart was breaking for him. I just cannot imagine. He has a plan to engage with some of his family, loved ones and friends in a unique role of adding value to them. He will do just fine. He is comfortable moving outside of his comfort zone and that’s what it takes.
I am going to copy some thoughts from one of our pastor’s recent sermons. His stated concern for his flock during this pandemic is loneliness. He mentioned that 40% of all Americans are close to “no-one.” Forty percent – that is horrific. He mentioned that the first problem addressed in the Bible was loneliness (Genesis 2:18). In Jesus’s conversation with his disciples at the Passover meal prior to his arrest and crucifixion he left them with five relationship principles that we may want to emulate. This conversation is covered in John chapters 13-17.
- We need people who will care for us. John 13:12-15; “When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and sat down again. He asked them, ‘Do you understand what I have just done for you?’”
- We need people who will encourage us. John 14:1; Jesus said, “Don’t let your heart be troubled. Trust in God, and trust in me.”
- We need people who will partner with us. John 15:4; “Remain in me and I will remain in you. A branch cannot produce fruit alone but must remain in the vine.”
- We need people who will protect us. John 16:1; “I have told you these things to keep you from giving up.”
- We need people who will pray for us. John 17:9; “I am praying for them. I am not praying for people in the world, but for those you gave me, because they are yours.”
Jesus was trying to give his disciples, who were also his best friends, some “to-do” items regarding relationships so they could each live a productive and fulfilling life. I hope none of those reading this are among the 40% of Americans that are close to no-one. Relationships are something of enormous value. “If there is something of value that you want and currently do not have it lies outside your comfort zone.” To join a small group, to engage with people you have never engaged with before can be scary. However – it may be the best decision you have ever made. We need one another and in order to be there – well, we must be there.
Each Wednesday morning, I am part of a small men’s group from our church that discusses leadership issues. Prior to the meetings we may listen to podcasts from John Maxwell, Craig Groeschel or other leadership gurus. Many of these gurus have a spiritual twist to their message. Maxwell is a pastor and Groeschel pastors the largest church in the US. One of our members is an executive for a major automotive company that discourages any talk of spiritual matters in the workplace. My friend sends his direct reports a summary of what our small group discusses, and they love it and look forward to his weekly leadership note. Today we discussed decision making and where does spirituality play a role. There was some consensus among our group that the more serious the decision, the greater the need for spiritual guidance. We are all anxious to hear how our friend’s employees like the notes from this session.
Based upon the serious nature of almost all of 2020 I have found myself relying more on the wisdom of God than I can recall in the past. What are your thoughts?
- Your light burns brighter and is easier to see when you have spent ample time in the Word.
- When was the last time you did something for the first time? John Maxwell
- Thorns may hurt you, men desert you, sunlight turn to fog; But you are never friendless ever, if you have a dog. Douglas Malloch
- I was just ignorant. And immature. I didn’t understand the negativity and hurt that comes with that word. Kyle Larson, fired NASCAR driver
- A man can accept what Christ has done without knowing how it works; indeed, he certainly won’t know how it works until he accepts it. CS Lewis
- It is better to prepare than to repair. John Maxwell
- Everything you want but do not currently have are outside your comfort zone (think you just heard that). Crisis moves us. Are we moved in a positive way or in a negative way? John Maxwell.
- Reflection turns experiences into insight. It is not what happens to me but what happens in me.
- What you believe deep down in your heart is revealed during the most tumultuous times of your life.
- If you read history, you will find that the people who did the most for this present world were those who thought most of the next world. CS Lewis
- I had far rather walk, as I do, in daily terror of eternity, than feel that this was only a children’s game in which all the contestants would get equally worthless prizes in the end. TS Elliot
- There are no shortcuts to any place worth going. John Maxwell
- Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity. Psalm 133:1
- Humble people do not think less of themselves; they just think of themselves less.
- You cannot kindle a fire in any other heart until it is burning within your own. John Maxwell
Progress on my new book & News at Chesapeake:
The book is complete. The new name is “Don’t Do Anything Stupid – A White Man’s Guide to Racial Harmony.” It is out to the printer for the first run. The next step is a book launch which our publisher is planning. Last week I did a promotional video that we should have out soon. If all goes well, I plan to use the next couple of monthly blogs to discuss the book and my slant on some of the issues we face.
I do not know how fast it will be on Amazon, Barns & Noble etc., but hopefully you can purchase a copy from Chesapeake Consulting within the next few weeks. The price from us will be $18 and that includes shipping to anywhere in the US.
At Chesapeake we are working to help bring you products and services that can assist you in adding value to your team in this new environment. For the last several years I have volunteered as an instructor for a group of prisoners that are in a program that prepares them for reentry. My contribution is I teach leadership development based on several of the books I have written. We have not been able to enter the prison since March however we want to start back up with our education in September. In order to do that I have made videos of the lessons. We have already produced three weeks’ worth of lessons and we will start the classes September 21st. I am sure we will learn and improve on how we deliver the message.
Traditionally Chesapeake delivered all our products in person. We now can do this by video and at a savings to our clients.
What would you like for us to do for you? Do you want a series on the Theory of Constraints, or one of our leadership books? How about some of our TTI products on self-awareness? We can even do a large portion of ACT job profiling.
We want to help you add value to your team. Check out our website if you have not visited in a while CCI.IS
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Have a great September!