This month we will address:
- Honoring One Another Part 1
- Chesapeake Consulting News and Opportunities
Honoring One Another Part 1
Years ago we developed a Chesapeake Consulting Model of Leadership. We displayed it in the form of triangles within triangles. At the very top we displayed the behaviors that people see; what we “DO.” We cited three behaviors; disruption, aligning to purpose and honoring (or dishonoring) people. Within the last few years we considered changing some of the wording, especially the word “honoring.” I am so glad we didn’t as it is quite powerful and one we need to heed and pay more attention to.
What would happen if we all made an intentional effort to “honor” others? I am very fortunate. It seems anytime I start exploring a subject deeper I get help from someone. This time it is from our pastor, Chris Hodges (PC). Like many – perhaps most Americans, PC is concerned with the lack of civility we have towards one another, so he has preached a series of sermons addressing the issue. I am going to lean on some of that wisdom in the next several blogs. The purpose of these blogs is to inform and to hopefully inspire some sort of action. I am going to intentionally keep each one of these blogs relatively short with some action plans that hopefully will have a positive impact for you. Many of the quotes below are in alignment with this theme.
Let’s begin this journey on discussing and wrestling with honoring one another.
Honor means to value, respect, or highly esteem; to treat as precious, weighty, or valuable. Without honor or dishonor is to treat as common or ordinary.
Honor elevates an individual and dishonor decimates a person.
Honoring begins with God’s claim on them.
Honor is a mindset – it is something we choose. It may sound simple – perhaps it is for you it isn’t for me. I do not have a problem honoring my loved ones or those that are friends and people I agree with. It becomes tougher for me when I run into people I disagree with politically or I perceive we have a difference in values.
We do not have to verbalize what we think – if we think it people can feel it and it impacts them. When we choose to honor someone they often become more honorable. The reverse is also true.
One of the more astonishing lessons I have learned this month was PC’s explanation of Mark 6:4-5. This is the story of Jesus speaking in the synagogue in his hometown of Nazareth. At first the religious leaders were astonished concerning his wisdom. Then all of a sudden, they turned on him and began to “take lightly” who he was. He was just the son of Mary and Joseph – a mere carpenter. They began to “dishonor” him. The phrase that hit me was “He could not do any miracles there, except lay his hands on a few people and heal them.” The scripture did not say “he would not do any miracles there.” It said, “he could not.” We are talking about Jesus here – and the fact that he was dishonored he “could” not help them? So how is it for us? When we dishonor one of our employees or anyone – are we handcuffing them to where they cannot do good? It is certainly something to think about.
So, for an exercise – write down the people that are in your immediate sphere of influence – your boss, employees, peers, family members – whoever. Spend time thinking about each person and looking upon them as a child of God. What is it that you admire about them? Ponder sharing that with them. How did that work out for you?
- True success comes only when every generation continues to develop the next generation.
- But when he had become powerful, he also became proud, which led to his downfall. 2 Chronicles 26:16a
- Success can be harder to handle than failure.
- When a godly man works like crazy and prays even harder, the combination can overcome even the worst assault.
- Spiritual growth is never a solitary journey, other people must be involved.
- Everyone has seen how jealous a dog is over his masters’ affection, if lavished on any other creature. This shows that animals not only love but have a desire to be loved. Charles Darwin
- Your success stops where your character stops. You can never rise above the limitations of your character. John Maxwell
- Don’t you realize that your body is he temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself. 1 Corinthians 6:19
- He that thinks he leads and has no one following is only taking a walk. John Maxwell
- Who knows if perhaps you were made queen for just such a time as this? Ester 4:14
- All of God’s greats have been weak men who did great exploits for God because they reckoned on His being faithful. J. Hudson Taylor
- What happened yesterday is history. What happens tomorrow is a mystery. What we do today makes a difference. Nick Saban
- Me knowing a man’s heart is what makes the difference. He does not have to ask me to dinner. Anderson Walker
- If only there were a mediator between us, someone who could bring us together. Job 9:33
- When we ascribe honor to someone, they often become more honorable.
- You get more honor by giving it.
- Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10
- You must do right before you feel good. John Maxwell
- Become a person of significance, not a person of success. Chris Hodges
- Who are you becoming?
- It is hard to transfer a principle when our actions only show partial participation and marginal obedience. Chris Hodges
- God, give us men. A time like this demands strong minds, great hearts, true faith and ready hands; men whom the lust of office does not kill; men whom the spoils of office cannot buy; men who posess opinions and a will; men who love honor; men who will not lie. Josiah Holland 1819-1881.
- May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears. Nelson Mandela
- The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.
- Treat everyone you meet with dignity. 1 Peter 2:17
- With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. James 3:9-10
Chesapeake Consulting News and Events:
Our big upcoming event is the Community Unity event July 21 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vc0AcIu2gPs This is a community event that was an outgrowth of our small group that meets to discuss racism.
We believe this event, and subsequent events, are another form of honoring our fellow man/woman. To take our company out of our comfort zone – to step out in faith and reach out to a community where we have little interaction – will be as beneficial, if not more beneficial, to Chesapeake as it is to those we touch during the event. Chesapeake is expanding into areas that are not totally new, but slightly different than our normal comfort zone.
What are you doing to add value in the form of education and training for your staff and leadership team? If you want some suggestions, please give us a shout. We would love to partner with you.