March 2021 Blog

March 2021 Blog


This month we will address:


  1. Relationships and organizational culture.
  3. Chesapeake News


Relationships are the key to culture:


We begin one of our workshops with a picture of a fruit orchard and a farmer with a hoe standing among the trees.  We explain that the trees represent the processes that produces a specific type of fruit, how well they do it depends on the soil content (the organizational culture) and the farmer (representing leadership) determines what goes into the soil.  Organizations are held together by information flow, purpose, and relationships.  Leadership sets the tone for relationships within an organization – what goes into the soil.   Relationships are based upon trust and trust is a function of mindset – how and what we think about things.  In my opinion there is enough wisdom in these first several sentences to read them over a couple of times to begin to imprint them on your mind and heart. 


Donnie Lee is one of the members of our Wednesday morning group that is studying my book “Don’t Do Anything Stupid – A White Man’s Guide to Racial Harmony.”  For this initial study we have seven guys: five old white guys, one middle aged black guy and Donnie: our 25-year-old black guy.  At times, one of the members of the group says something profound that we try and capture.  A couple of weeks ago Donnie said, “Relationships are the enemy of racism.”  We all stopped – “Say that again!”  That was profound. 


We are all leaders, and leadership is responsible for good relationships.  Without getting into a long essay on leadership, I will simply say there are two things that determine how people see you behave – what you know and who you are (character).  There are nine elements of character that are in alignment with the nine fruits of the Spirit which are love, joy, patience, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.  All of these behaviors are choices.  For the three months we are going to discuss three per month so we will hit them all by the end of the quarter. 


I choose love.  I will love God and love what God loves.  Since God loves everyone, I will love everyone. 


The fellow that has his pants hanging down below his rear end – God loves him. The guy talking in a jargon that I do not understand – God loves him.  The young man who chews tobacco, drives a pickup truck with mud all over it and wears a baseball cap with a confederate flag on it – God loves him.  It is a lot easier to love people like us – middle class with middle class values.  It can be a bit of a challenge to love folks that are radically different from us.  Love them anyway. 


I choose to share joy with all human beings, regardless of their race.  I will delight in the opportunity to interact with people of all races. 


Have you ever had someone walk into a room and they just suck the energy out of the room with their poor attitude and demeanor?  Sure, you have.  We give a workshop based around my book “What I learned about Leadership from my Dog.”  I bring my dog to the workshop.  I will very lethargically give the dog some commands.  The dog is relatively unresponsive but will lethargically be obedient.  Then I get excited—really excited and give the dog the same commands.  The dog is engaged and eagerly does the commands and is alert and looking for more commands.  The only thing that changed was my attitude – same dog, same commands.  Humans are the same – we just see it faster and more obvious in the dog’s reaction.  You choose how you show up, and it is part of your character.  Show up with an uplifting attitude or consider not showing up at all.   Let your attitude be a positive influence on your culture as that is a leader’s responsibility. 


I choose to walk in peace with my fellow man, even if they hurt or offend me.  I will not hold an entire race of people responsible for the actions of a few. 


Have you ever been hurt or unfairly treated by someone of another race?  Was there a temptation to blame it on their race?  Our family has had several opportunities to do this and to be honest, went part way down that path.  Our pastor once said “walking in unforgiveness is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”    Can you overlook the offense and choose to forgive?  Forgiveness does not mean condoning the behavior.  It simply means “letting go.” 





  1. Tend to the people and they will tend to the business.  John Maxwell
  2. Be such a man, and live such a life, that if every man were such as you, and every life such as yours, this earth would be God’s paradise.  Phillip Brooks.
  3. Relationships are the enemy of racism.  Relationships kill racism.  Donnie Lee
  4. To insist that a dog feels, loves devotedly, and with less calculation than men brings a smile of amusement.  Eleanor Atkinson
  5. When the leader lacks confidence, the followers lack commitment.  John Maxwell
  6. I have decided that I am not going to let anything that will ultimately mean nothing keep me from experiencing what ultimately will mean everything.  Chris Hodges
  7. When God measures the greatness of a leader, He puts the tape measure around his heart, not his head.  John Maxwell
  8. If you are not living on the edge you are taking up too much space.
  9. A man can be as truly a saint in a factory as in a monastery, and there is as much need of him in one as in the other.  Robert McCracken
  10. A leader who produces other leaders multiplies their influence.  John Maxwell
  11. Dear friends, you always followed my instructions when I was with you.  and now that I am away, it is even more important.  Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear.  For God is working in you, giving you the desire and power to do what pleases Him.  Philippians 2:12-13
  12. The only guarantee for failure is to stop trying.  John Maxwell


Chesapeake News:


Starting sometime in May, I will be giving four-hour lectures/workshops on general business and the Theory of Constraints at our office.  We will probably schedule these once every other week.   One of our clients asked us to do this.  We have space for 3-4 more attendees.  As this will be an ongoing series you need to live within easy driving distance of Tuscaloosa.  Our office is a little less than two miles from the interstate exit so we are easy to get to.  Price will be $500 per session per person.  If you have an interest in this; please contact us and we will keep you in the loop as to times and agendas. 


We are working with and developing specific programs for Sheriff’s departments.  If you are interested let us know and we will send you more details. 


Over the last several months I have done numerous interviews concerning my most recent book “Don’t Do Anything Stupid; A White Man’s Guide to Racial Harmony.”  Below are links to our You Tube channel that is dedicated to the book and a link to purchase the book.  I would really appreciate it if you would subscribe to the You Tube channel and write a review for the book on Amazon.  


Last week I was the speaker at the West New Jersey Rotary Club – without traveling to New Jersey.  IF your organization is still “zooming it” and you need a speaker for a monthly meeting feel free to check and see if I am available. 


I hope you are beginning the trip back to “normal.” 




YouTube Channel


Link to purchase book